You’re Not Who You Used to Be, and That’s a Beautiful Thing
I’ve been reflecting lately on all the versions of me I’ve been.
The new mama who didn’t have a clue what she was doing, just all heart and learning to trust my instincts. I remember going back to work after being on leave for 6 months and just crying.
The corporate woman with a smile on her face and an internal storm silently raging in her nervous system.
The wife, the friend, the fixer, the strong one, the avoider, the over-doer.
I’m no longer the same woman who gave birth to her baby boy over 24 years ago. I’m not even the woman my husband met 10 years ago. I love her, but I’m not her anymore.
And I don’t say that with sadness.
Okay… maybe a little. But I do say with reverence. Because each version of me was doing the best with what she knew.
There is something tender about acknowledging who we once were, especially when we know we’re not going back.
A quiet sadness in saying goodbye to parts of you that helped you survive.
But there’s also beauty. Because the more I shed what no longer fits, the more I remember who I really am.
But this is the journey.
We grow. We evolve. We shed.
And if we’re really paying attention, we come back to the version of ourselves that feels most aligned, most free, most us.
And if you believe, like I do, that we’re not just here to achieve or perform. We are here to grow, heal, and remember… then this is part of the path.
I believe we choose this life.
That our souls come here with a blueprint. The lessons to learn, people to meet, patterns to break, and truths to remember.
But the moment we’re born… we forget.
We forget our power.
We forget our wholeness.
And we spend years trying to “find ourselves,” when really, the journey is about coming home to who we were always meant to be.
It’s really a beautiful journey that we let fade away as life happens.
A Journey of Remembering
We come into this life with a soul assignment, and it’s so important to know that growth is not a straight line. It’s a spiraling journey of remembering, forgetting, and remembering again.
We play so many roles throughout our lives.
We become who we were taught to be.
We shape-shift to fit in, to survive, to stay safe.
And for a while, those versions serve us.
The strong one.
The overachiever.
The people-pleaser.
The one who keeps it all together.
But eventually… that version starts to feel tight.
Like a sweater that once kept you warm but now makes it hard to breathe.
And something inside you whispers: “It’s time.”
That’s when the unraveling begins.
Not in chaos, but in clarity.
Not because something’s wrong, but because something deeper is calling you forward.
And yet, that moment can feel tender.
Because even when we’re ready to grow, it can still feel scary to let go.
Sometimes there’s sadness in releasing an old version of you.
Even if she was overwhelmed. Even if she was exhausted.
She protected you. She did the best she could.
She helped you survive.
But you’re not here to just survive.
You’re here to live.
To expand.
To embody the truth of who you really are, not the roles you were handed, but the essence you came here to remember.
That’s what this season of your life is about.
Not becoming someone new.
But coming back to yourself. The You, that has simply forgot who she was along the way.
Why This Matters
This work — this shedding, remembering, coming home — it isn’t just about healing what hurt you.
It’s about reclaiming what’s always been true underneath the conditioning.
Because the longer we live disconnected from ourselves, the easier it becomes to believe we are the mask.
The role.
The achiever.
The fixer.
The strong one.
But the truth is: you were never meant to perform your way through life.
You were meant to live it.
Fully. Freely. Authentically.
One of the most powerful ways we return to that truth is by checking in with ourselves.
And if you’re not sure where to begin, go back to the blog, “Performing vs. Living,” where I shared the Power of the Check-In. It’s a simple but transformative practice that helps you pause, reconnect, and remember what’s real for you in the moment.
Because the more you check in, the more you start to notice when something feels off.
You begin to sense when you’ve slipped into an old identity — and you gently guide yourself back.
You’re not broken.
You’re just becoming.
And every time you choose presence over performance, compassion over criticism, softness over self-abandonment — you are rewriting your story.
💌 From Me to You
If you’re in a season of growth, shedding, or rediscovering who you are… I want you to know you’re not alone.
You’re not behind.
You’re not too much.
You’re not too late.
You’re right on time.
This is the path. This is the remembering.
And you’re doing it beautifully.
If you want support on that path — if you’re ready to move from survival into self-love and reclaim the you beneath the masks — I invite you to join the priority list for my upcoming course:
Beyond Numbing: From Survival to Self-Love Reset
This course isn’t about fixing you, because you were never broken.
It’s about helping you feel safe enough to return to who you were always meant to be.
I’m so honored to walk this journey with you.
With love and light,
Amie
